Some people swear by coffee dates and walks as an easy, low-pressure way to test chemistry. Others see that same invite as a red flag, arguing that if someone won’t plan a meal, they’re not serious about dating. Some practices feel thoughtful in the moment, others feel harmless until a few sit with you just long enough to become a group chat topic. So I put together a list of common first-date practices that people have VERY STRONG opinions about. For each one, all you have to do is decide: absolutely or absolutely not? No overthinking, no “it depends” (even though it always does). Just go with your gut, because that’s usually what decides whether there’s a second date anyway!
