Women Are Sharing How They “Accidentally” Found Out Their Husbands Were Cheating, And Wowwww

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“On Christmas morning, my husband went into our home office and fired off some emails while I was trying to get out the door for a family gathering. It felt very off, so later I checked his email (we both had access to each other’s email accounts). Sure enough, he was conversing with a woman from his past (his girlfriend when he was 13 years old!) and was telling her how she was his true love. We had been married 10 years at the time.”

“I immediately contacted the family therapist we had been seeing due to the strain with my daughter from my previous marriage. I confronted him with the email, and he admitted he had been in contact with her. She had found him on Facebook and they had reconnected. I was devastated. He had sworn to me when we got married that he would never lie to me, never cheat on me. The therapist called his actions ’emotional infidelity.’ While he hadn’t been physical with her, he had stepped outside the boundaries of our marriage. He told both of us he would immediately cease all contact with her. The therapist warned him that rebuilding trust would be a long-term commitment, and he should be prepared to have me doubt him. She told me I would have to learn to trust him again if I chose to stay. But I couldn’t stalk him, either. We agreed we would stay together and try to work it out. I did my best to trust him. While he never seemed interested in anyone in our location, I still worried about the other woman. 

He gave me no further reason to doubt him, but it was always in the back of my mind. Fast forward nine years. My birthday — dinner the night before for just the two of us. Dinner the next night — my actual birthday — with my family. He was sulky and aloof. Pictures of him from that night show him scowling and moody. That was a Saturday night. On Wednesday night, after I came home from work, I started preparing dinner. He was already home and at his computer in our office. He came into the kitchen and pulled me into his arms. He told me he wanted a divorce. He said he had tried to live with me all these years, but I just didn’t live up to his expectations. He swore there was no one else, but he just couldn’t live with me. That when we got to heaven, we would find each other and be together forever. He would always love me, take care of me, but just couldn’t live with me. He had contacted a lawyer and wanted to move forward with it. I was totally devastated. I went into shock. He disappeared for the next two days and left me home alone. 

I called in sick to work, unable to sleep, eat, or breathe. I agreed to see his lawyer so I wouldn’t be served at work. He printed out the map to the office and showed it to me. I looked at it and knew where to go. For some unknown reason, I glanced up at the top of the page — it was a printout from an email. From him to his girlfriend — the same one. I exploded. I had been an emotional wreck for weeks. Now I find out he’s back with her. I immediately called my own lawyer. She was amazing. After his little trip home to ‘see family,’ and spending Thanksgiving with her, he moved out. It got really ugly with him promising to burn me to the ground, to see me living under a bridge if I didn’t give him what he wanted, which was the house and everything else. 

My lawyer laughed all the way into court. That was an ugly scene. He lied to the judge, which she caught, and he glared at me from across the room. The judge was very savvy and understood what was happening. I gave her the details he somehow ‘forgot’ and answered to the best of my ability. I was completely truthful. The judge awarded me more than I asked for. She made sure he understood she knew what kind of person he was. After another court hearing because he didn’t want to go along with the judgment, the judge spelled it out to him in no uncertain terms. While waiting in the hallway for her signature, he tried to threaten and intimidate my lawyer. She stood up to him and called for the court clerk to call security. By the time we left, he was furious, pacing outside and trying to intimidate me. He cursed under his breath at me. It took him a few tries to delay my alimony payments, but things are going smoothly now. I haven’t seen him since our last court date. I have no contact with him. His girlfriend moved out to our state and bought a house. He moved in with her. I have never had a better life. I am happy. Rumor has it, though, that there is trouble in his ‘paradise.'”

—Anonymous, 67