This Mom's Viral Warning Is Making Women Think Twice About Having Kids

The true sacrifce of motherhood is the biggest thing Sabrina has realized. “The sacrifice of my body, my lifestyle, my mental health, my career, my relationships with friends and family. There is not one part of my life that wasn’t affected. Don’t get me wrong, I knew that a lot of my life would be different, but my friendships changing, my relationship dynamics with my family changed, even my desire in my healthcare career changed. I worked very hard in my career and was dreaming of advancing further,” she shared.

“But when I saw my five-pound baby girl in my hands, it all changed. None of it mattered anymore. I think a lot of women can empathize with that identity crisis. Society, especially other women, just want you to feel nothing but grateful because ‘babies are a blessing,’ and I was lucky to have a healthy baby — which I am grateful for. But I’m also grieving deeply. I’m grieving my old self, my old freedom; I’m sad for the girl who had such a solid identity because now it’s not so solid. I’m slowly rebuilding it, and it’s definitely a process that has no exact road path. But all of these feelings can be true at once, and I think that is what people fail to understand. Nothing is black and white.”

Sabrina also could not have prepared herself for how much she loves Harlie. “It’s scary how much I love her because there is nothing I wouldn’t do to protect her. That side of motherhood feels almost animalistic. I knew I would love her, but I could never understand to what degree.” She added, “What exhausts me the most about motherhood is it just doesn’t stop. Even if, for the day, she’s at my mother’s house, I think about her, wondering if she misses me, checking in often. It doesn’t end. There is no such thing as clocking out even when I’m getting an actual physical break, my mental never does. It can be exhausting.”