Hid

During the last 22 years, the number of people who’ve said to me, “But you HAD to know he was gay, right?” exceeds a hundred by a good bit.  And yes, there are some stereotypically ironic elements of the depth of my not-knowing, which I usually do my best to lean into when telling this tale, often as a way of inviting people to laugh with rather than at me.  For his first birthday after we…