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“I’ve learned that no matter how deep the love or strong the connection, if someone can’t meet you halfway with honesty, it’s never going to work. I used to think love could fix things. That if I gave more, waited more, stayed patient, it would prove I was worth choosing. But being chosen isn’t an actual standard that brings value on its own. What I know now is that the right person doesn’t keep you waiting in limbo. They don’t need a mental breakdown to find clarity. They just show up — with honesty, with action and with a willingness to grow with you, not because of you. Not because they’re afraid of being lonely and you’re making them feel better about themselves. That’s not love—it’s emotional dependency.”
“I’ve learned I don’t want to parent someone through their healing or anything, really. I don’t want to be the one who carries the weight of their fear, guilt or indecision while calling it love. I want mutual clarity. I want someone who tells the truth the first time, who isn’t terrified of choosing what’s real.
The quality I prioritize now is emotional accountability. If you can’t own your choices — if you can’t move with integrity — I don’t care how good the chemistry is. It’s not enough. I want peace, consistency and someone who isn’t afraid of actually showing up fully.”
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