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“I met a guy on an app. Seemed nice enough. At the time, I wasn’t looking for a relationship, and I made that very clear in my bio AND when we first started talking. I was really just trying to meet new people and see what came out of it, but I was very, very clear on not wanting anything serious, as I was healing from a breakup and had no interest in a commitment.”
“Everything was fine at first. There really wasn’t much of a connection, but we had decent conversations, and he seemed okay. I figured nothing would hurt from a little friendly conversation. I was pretty lonely at the time and just happy to have someone to converse with during the day.
Fast forward about three or four days—this guy starts blowing me up. If I didn’t respond within an hour or two, he’d text me again. Sometimes saying the same things, sometimes questioning what I was up to (‘You must be busy’), and he kept texting me until I responded, even when I told him I was busy with work.
The final straw for me was — and this was literal days after we started talking — he says in a condensed way, ‘It seems as though you’re not as busy and respond more in the evening. I guess I’ll just start texting you around then.’
That did it for me. I politely said, ‘Look, dude, I can’t be on my phone 24/7. If I don’t respond, it’s not personal. I’m just busy. But this is just too much, and I can’t talk to someone who expects me to be on call 24/7. You’re a nice dude, but it’s overwhelming and a little too much.’
I blocked him, and I’m glad I did. I felt so overwhelmed after just a few days of talking to this guy. He was acting as though we were a thing and that I needed to be texting him all day long. Looking back, he was a decent dude, and I don’t think he meant any harm, but it was creepy as hell and an automatic turn-off. I’m pretty sure I stopped giving out my number on dating apps for a while after that.”
—adamfenton
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