People Are Sharing The Things That Aren’t Actually “Mandatory” In Life, And I Learned A Few Important Lessons Here

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“Hearing me out without getting defensive. I had a million comebacks ready, and my college roommate said, ‘I’m sorry, thank you for talking to me about this. I’ll do better.’ Floored.”

—Leading_Tie_1920

“I, too, remember the feeling of stunned wonder I had upon meeting my first well-adjusted person. At first, it was like encountering an elf or alien, but less believable.”

—usually_fuente

“This reminds me of my first boyfriend and me. I grew up in a really passive-aggressive family. You don’t say anything until you’re super pissed off, and then you explode, and then the person you’re attacking explodes back at you, and you have a huge fight and get everything off your chest, and then you move on with no resolution. 

I got all worked up and snapped at him rather rudely, expecting him to snap back at me and have our first fight. Instead, he just stopped, looked at me, tilted his head, and said, ‘Okay… let’s talk about that.’ I was flabbergasted. He taught me then and there how to properly communicate and work through my feelings with a partner. It’s been 11 years, two degrees, a cross-country move, a pandemic lockdown, a wedding, and a toddler later, and we’ve still yet to have a single fight. We just… talk. It’s wild.”

—nctm96