Married Men Are Sharing The Things People Should Know Before They Consider Saying “I Do”

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“To truly know yourself before getting into any committed relationship. I neglected to do this, and it caused a divorce with a woman I was madly in love with. Unresolved trauma from the past will always rear its ugly head in the form of projections and autopilot responses.”

“This can include the fear of abandonment, unresolved father and mother complexes, shame, insecure attachment style, insecurities, etc. If you aren’t conscious of how these things operate and manifest, you will think that’s just how I behave and feel. This is ‘me.’ When you are conscious of these processes, you can be free from them and can thus relate to people and form connections at a stronger and healthier level, not from egoic projections of need and lack.”

—u/MighHighMauler303