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“A) Starting to be very emotionally abusive towards me for seemingly no reason. B) Coming home later than usual and claiming he had a lot of work to do. Also, making excuses to leave the house on the weekend to go to ‘work’ events. D) Stopping being intimate with me and rejecting me if I ever try to initiate.”
“My (soon-to-be ex) husband did all of these and then some. He had one subordinate in particular whom he didn’t hide being keen on. He would come home and tell on himself. He told me how she said, ‘You don’t seem like the type to cheat’ to him (which is an invitation/challenge, not a compliment, in my eyes).
She also told him — on a speaker phone call that she didn’t realize I was sitting next to him during — that he was the ‘person she loved the most’ at their job. These comments may just seem a little over-familiar but ultimately harmless in a vacuum, but there were too many other signs to ignore.
When I told him she made me uncomfortable, rather than reassure me, he told me that she ‘had man hands’ and that she was bi (as if being bi excludes being attracted to men). He pronounced it ‘bee.’ English wasn’t his first language, so seeing as he didn’t pronounce bi as she would have, I guess he was learning about her sexual preferences over text as he was tilting his phone away from me.
I never got actual confirmation. He lied about enough things in our marriage; I wouldn’t expect honesty if I confronted him now. But his behavior and my gut feeling are enough.”
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