I'm Shaking My Head And Whispering “No, No, No” Over This Husband's Gifting Fail

“I guess I’m going against the grain here. YTA. You are not understanding that this man is incapable of understanding the nuances of your taste in necklaces, yet you expect him to. You literally should just be happy he tried to get you anything after years of you talking about necklaces.”

The correct response would have been to be grateful and honored that he tried getting you a gift in the moment, then a few days later explain to him softly that it is not exactly your taste but he did a great job trying and that you are happy and proud of him for actually gifting you something when its not his thing. Then you GO WITH HIM to the store to return it and get a different one, then you can give him a big hug and thank him for getting you a necklace you want.

That way, you’re both happy, and he feels appreciated, so he will likely try to do better next time or at least will WANT to buy you a gift again. The way you responded sucked, and there is no chance he even goes through the effort again at all.

Also, FYI, the fact you think you made it perfectly clear to him what a dainty necklace looks like is absolutely mind-blowing. An analogy would be if you sent him paragraphs in Russian five times a month and then, after two years, expect him to be able to converse with you in Russian.

Men (like myself) who have no need or interest in the slightest for jewelry can try their best to understand the nuances of what looks good and what doesn’t, but the truth is, it looks like a piece of fucking metal to me. The only real metric I have is the price. If my wife wore jewelry (she hates it) and spent as much time as you did trying to explain what specific flavor or shape or whatever the fuck type of jewelry she specifically enjoyed, I would do my absolute best as I always do, but it would be a 100% gamble in the end if it ended up being right. This doesn’t make me or any of us bad people; we just do not understand the appeal of jewelry.

You’re lying in this post that you are upset that he doesn’t get you gifts? He got you a gift, and you didn’t want it. You are upset he doesn’t understand your specific taste. And that is wrong as fuck.”

—Antique_Somewhere542