“I Found The Person Who Molested My Son”: Strangers On The Internet Are Confessing The Secrets They’ve Never Told A Soul, And I Am SAT

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“About 10 years ago, I was in a dead bedroom with my wife. She refused to discuss it or go to counseling, and I ended up hooking up with a guy I worked with. It was just foreplay, nothing beyond that, but it was a release for me. He had come out years earlier, but when his family threatened to cut him off, he went back into the closet. Eventually, he started dating a woman. They got married and had kids. We still hooked up occasionally. Every so often, he would remind me that he was taking this secret to his grave and wanted me to promise the same, because he couldn’t handle anyone finding out he was gay. After a couple of years, we stopped fooling around. My wife and I eventually divorced, not because of that, but because we were simply going in different directions in life. Last year he reached out to tell me he and his wife were getting divorced. He again asked me to keep our past between us and take it to the grave.”

“I told him that was fine. He then asked if my boyfriend and I would like to grab a drink and catch up. I said sure. About a month later, he told me they were reconciling and no longer divorcing. I asked if he still wanted to get that drink. He said no, because he didn’t know how he would explain being out for drinks with me and my boyfriend to his wife. She has no idea we were ever involved. That irritated me. To anyone else, it would just look like three guys having a drink. My boyfriend and I do not walk around with T-shirts on that read “GAY” on the back. We would simply be at a bar, not doing anything inappropriate. But to him, even that felt like too much of a risk.” — RustyManhole