Divorced Women Reveal The Shocking Ways Their Ex-Husbands Changed After Marriage

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“My ex didn’t exactly do a 180 (at first). It was more that I became increasingly aware of the behavior that was hurting us. The subtle manipulation, the lack of accountability, every argument started with me finally respectfully opening up about my feelings, then ended with me crying and apologizing to him for ‘making him feel like a bad person.’ I noticed subtle acts of selfishness and an unwillingness to actually change, that I knew was there before, but I guess I just let it go. When I found out he cheated, I was devastated and felt horribly betrayed. Then it’s like all the signs slapped me in the face. They were all there. All the same ones I noticed towards his exes when we first got together at 20. He had been lying to me for a long time about basically everything, and I supported him emotionally and financially and said sorry for bothering you.”

“He did do a complete 180, though, when he tried to get me to sign our mortgage over without a guarantee of my half of the equity. I said no, of course, I want it in the divorce papers, and I want to make sure it’s the correct amount for each of us. He literally flipped the switch from the quiet, nice, chill guy to someone yelling at me over texts and accusing me of things I literally never did. He was so mean. He spoke to me in ways he had never spoken to me in 10 years. I didn’t even know who he was. 

Now, thankfully divorced, he is dragging out the house refinance as a last-ditch effort to control the situation. I will never believe someone who is too nice or avoids conflict again. ‘We never fight/argue/disagree’ is not a good sign.”

—NervousWrex22