43 Stories About Women Who Gave The Chronically Single Guy A Chance

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“Turns out being porn addicted and partner-less for over a decade can potentially create habits you can’t kick and deficits you can’t correct. Although I guess lacking empathy and being egocentric doesn’t help.”

“He had a deathgrip reliance (i.e. was overly reliant on getting off via a tight grip while  masturbating, which can lead to desensitization and difficulty achieving orgasm during partnered sex), was only able to get aroused by porn-style techniques (which often don’t work in real life), and was unable to enjoy real interaction and intimacy ‘because it’s not like in the videos.’ He was disappointed partners don’t do simulated porn noises and don’t orgasm when you’re actually not doing anything that would cause one. He was a selfish lover and disinterested in the fun/pleasure of his partner, and kept porn as a daily must. Add in the phenomenon of immediately stopping what is being done upon being told that ‘this is great, keep doing it…the mind boggles.

The experience was so jarring that, in the end, no sex and being alone were preferable to extremely bad sex. A partner should not feel like a sex therapist.

This is not every person, but it certainly is some people.

I am sure there are many sweet long-term singles out there, too.”

—u/Fettnaepfchen