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“When I stopped bringing up issues because I knew the discussion would only make me feel worse. That particular ex would twist any conversation I started about their bad behavior or any other issue into me being the bad guy. He would ignore all my points and tell me that the way I brought up the discussion was rude or incorrect (even though it was very similar to how he’d also bring things up). Literally, the entire conversation would end up being about that instead of the topic I brought up. Most of the time, we’d go in circles forever, only to end the discussion with things worse off. On the rare occasion that the conversation was successful, I’d have to spend 15 minutes discussing whatever issue he had with the way the conversation started and then spend another 20 minutes discussing the original issue.”
“Near the end of the relationship, I was really overwhelmed and stressed by serious life issues from a string of bad luck, and I just stopped bringing up issues because I couldn’t handle the added stress for what should’ve been an easy, five-minute discussion with anyone else. The final straw was when he showed up 30 minutes late for something, and when I expressed I was upset, instead of just apologizing, he essentially tried to gaslight me and told me I was a bad person. People’s responses to getting called out for bad behavior say a lot more about them than the original bad behavior.”
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