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See how they respond to your boundaries/rules early on. “Once, I went on a Tinder date, and I told the guy straight-up that I had to leave before 11 p.m., because I told my sister I was going to send her a time-stamped Snapchat from my apartment before midnight, and if I didn’t, she should worry. He kept trying to convince me to stay out later, and that’s what made me know I didn’t want to.”
“As soon as he went to the bathroom, I grabbed my jacket and bag and made a beeline for the subway station, and I was long gone before he came back.”
—ddaisy
“I always set an end time limit for the first couple of dates. Like ‘I have movie plans with my sister at 8:00 p.m.,’ so I cannot be cajoled into staying longer, and I can get out of them wanting to drive me somewhere.
“For the record, I am AFAB nonbinary and date women. Women can be creeps, too, and it’s best to be safe around anyone new.”
—duct_tape_heart
“Always tell them that you have somewhere to be after the date. It stops any expectation, gives you a definite out, and the bonus is if it IS going well and you want to stay, they’ll think you bailed on your other plans for them!”
—Anonymous
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