Categories: AllGoodful

17 Subtle Signs Someone Has Been Through A Lot Of Sh*t In Their Life


6.

“They usually fall into one of these three:”

“Hyper-reactive and defensive — always on edge, because life’s taught them to expect the worst. (Unprocessed trauma.)

Withdrawn and distant — they’ve shut out the world as a form of protection. (Denial, isolation, checked out from people or life.)

Chill to the point of detachment — they’ve stopped caring about most things because caring too much used to hurt.

But at the end of the day, if you really think about it, these are all just assumptions. We never truly know unless that person chooses to share their truth.”

FitAdministration257

“This is actually completely true, on a psychological level. What you just described are the three most common coping mechanisms/defense mechanisms of a person who’s facing trauma.

1) Fight 2) Flight 3) Freeze.

What people don’t talk about often, though, is that there is a fourth, which is Fawn. It’s when you attach to people too easily, give all of yourself/resources/opinions away in order to please others in the hopes you’ll stay ‘safe’ as long as you stay compliant and subservient to a certain person/situation.”

Yamsforyou

Raven Ishak

Recent Posts

22 Things Men Think Turn Women Off, But Actually Often Do The Exact Opposite

Are there any other things that men think turn women off, but in reality, it…

18 minutes ago

Let’s Play 10 Rounds Of Wavelength!

Let's see just how similar our brains are!View Entire Post ›

43 minutes ago

Our Cats Are Like Our Children, So My Husband And I Made A Decision That May Shock Some People

"This flavor of anxiety is one I don’t talk about often."View Entire Post ›

1 hour ago

21 Less Obvious Young Person Habits That Can Silently Harm People Later In Life

"I don't see it a lot, but I see it enough that it's worrying."View Entire…

1 hour ago

Take This Quiz To Find Out What Your Soulmate Will Be Like

I know you've wondered!View Entire Post ›

2 hours ago

27 Mind-Blowing Facts I learned In March That Sound Like BS But Are Actually True

For example, a quilt seen in the character of Alison's apartment was patterned with the…

2 hours ago