Women Are Sharing The “Unhinged” Things They Do For Safety That Are Honestly 100% Valid

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“I meet in public several times until I get to know someone well enough and feel comfortable with them in private. As someone who was date raped on a first date at 16 and four times in adulthood, I take my time with this. I refuse non-public dates or private dates and do not go to strangers’ homes or allow strangers in my home for a date.”

“Doing this has left guys confused as to who I am. One guy I met online tried to get me to come over for a first date, which I declined, and he kept asking me after that. He accused me of lying, saying I was a man because I would only meet in public. Another guy wanted to meet up in private via text before a phone conversation, and I said no. He then kept calling me blocked, saying I had a dick and that he would track my phone, come over, and pull my pants to verify. My safety is a priority, and that’s that. So many things can and/or have happened to women on first dates (the murder of Sade Robinson in Milwaukee comes to mind). Call me a snob, a guy, or even a bitch. I don’t care. If you wouldn’t want your sister or cousin in a stranger’s home, you shouldn’t expect me to want to either.”

—Anonymous