This Woman Is Wondering If She's The A**Hole For Asking Her Husband To Only Speak German At Home

Commenters explained that this is a very normal phenomenon. “Because language frames how we perceive the world and others and how we relate our experiences to our interlocutors, it has a big influence when it comes to relationships. “So I absolutely understand what your husband means by ‘he doesn’t feel like he’s speaking to his wife.'”

“However, despite the uncomfortable experience, I do believe that you being able to succeed at your exam, with what I imagine the future of your life in Germany with him hanging in the balance (with what it implies for your everyday life, your professional future, potentially your immigration paperwork…), is more important that this temporary issue. 

It is, in fact, only for 10 weeks. To me, you’re not the asshole, but I recommend inviting German-speaking friends and family over, going to the movies, or any activity that works for you along those lines, so maybe he gets some time off from being your immersion tutor every day of the week.”

—ladyteruki