This Person Is Married But Has A Crush On Someone At Work — People On The Internet Are Giving Advice

Another user who was previously in the OP’s shoes provided a more extreme response to dealing with these emotions. “Speaking personally as someone experienced in what you’re going through, I would change jobs. As this is your first extramarital crush, you don’t have the real knowledge of what can happen if you do go all the way. Unless they do something to put you off, it’s unlikely the crush will fade,” wrote u/Icy_Compote_8396.

“The first sign of dissatisfaction at home, he’ll seem more inviting. By trying to get over him, you’ll just think about him as much and, in my opinion, it could grow tension. Don’t forget he could feel the same and give in and tell you how he feels.

Then, you have confirmation from your crush to deal with.

It’s hard, and I’m not saying you can’t try to forget it and move on. But unless you’ve had the feelings, you’re starting to have people who won’t know how strong it can be. You’re not a million miles away from falling in love. I’m saying all this with zero judgment or criticism.

If you want to be scared straight, I’ll tell you the fallout of divorce.”