This Bride Must Choose Between A Friend's Wedding Or Another Friend's Baby Shower, And It's DRAMA

So, that’s the situation. Most of the comments think that the OP actually is the a**hole, but not because of how she’s interacting with her MOH:

“Sorry, but you plan to cancel going to your friend’s wedding to go to this friend’s baby shower? I mean, really? You have your priorities wrong. A wedding is more important than a baby shower. Can’t believe I had to type that. You’re the a**hole.”

—u/Safe_Draft_1330

“The commitment has been made to the wedding, so you go to the wedding. You don’t cancel because another social event comes up. The only reason you’d cancel is if something beyond your control happens, e.g., you have to have an urgent operation. OP should’ve just told her MOH, ‘I won’t be able to attend that weekend. I’ve already RSVP’d to this wedding.'”

—u/superkinks

“You’re the a**hole for putting your decision on your MOH instead of owning it yourself…

I think you become the a**hole when she says, ‘Woof, well, I think that’s the only weekend I can do it,’ and you respond by basically telling her, ‘Well, you’re *making* me be an asshole to my other friends – I don’t want to, but you’re forcing my hand…’

I think that your decision to attend the baby shower over the wedding is yours alone. It’s up to you what you choose to prioritize and what plans you choose to keep or cancel. It’s unfair of you to put that on her.”

—u/PM_Me_Thine_Genital