Ask A Sexologist: 'I Don't Feel Desired By My Otherwise Loving Partner. What Should I Do?'
January 27, 2026
How can I talk to my partner about not feeling desired?
“How you talk about this is crucial,” Roos told us.
“You need to make the discussion about emotional and physical intimacy, longing, and about you wanting the relationship to work as well as it possibly can; not about performance or standards that lead to pressure and stress.”
Try using “I” statements, and “focus on yourself…





