Sex Experts Shared Their Honest Thoughts On Kanye West And Bianca Censori's Public Nudity

Confusion over Censori’s agency grew last week, when reports came out that Censori was divorcing Ye over the Grammys controversy and his online antisemitic rants. 

The rapper’s spokesperson, Milo Yiannopoulos ― yes, that Milo Yiannopoulos ― denied such reports. 

It’s worth noting, Censori wore barely there, avant-garde body stocking outfits before she met Ye. Dames still thinks that was different from now. 

“That was a time when she was less well known,” she said. “The way she dressed and the things she enjoyed were, presumably, not expected to be seen and reported on by millions of people. I definitely think this is a ploy by Kanye to get attention by any means necessary.” 

Evie Lupine, a kink educator, said she also worries that West is dictating the terms of the relationship to Censori rather than creating them with her. 

“If he doesn’t see her as an equal person with agency from the start, that is a red flag for emotional abuse,” she said. “The biggest tell, though, is if Censori is free to leave the relationship at any time without fearing for her safety. In other words, can she not only give her consent, but revoke it?”

If someone can’t leave a D/s relationship, isn’t allowed to say no, or is otherwise coerced at some level, that’s clearly not a healthy or consensual kink arrangement, Lupine told HuffPost.

We don’t know how Ye may be acting in this relationship, but we have ample evidence of how he acted during previous breakups, Lupine said. 

“When he was breaking up with Julia Fox, he showered his ex Kim Kardashian with a literal truck full of roses,” she said. “He made a music video in which he decapitated Pete Davidson when Kim and Pete were briefly together.”

“He’s also been accused of sexually assaulting multiple women, including a model and a personal assistant,” she added. “To me, this is not someone who leaves the impression he is a safe person to say no to, or someone who will let you leave easily.” 

The experts we spoke to balked at the idea that the general public may be drawing conclusions about the kink community based on West and Censori, especially given the couple’s shoddy treatment of bystander consent. 

“They aren’t good representatives of our standards at any level, but naturally the most extreme examples always get media attention,” Lupine said. “The sex worker walking a man on a leash in an Erewhon makes headlines, for instance.” 

No one writes stories about the hundreds of thousands of couples who are engaging in BDSM in the privacy of their homes or in undetectable ways in public ―  texting a partner orders while they’re out in public or controlling a long-distance wearable vibrator ― because no one notices, Lupine said. 

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This article originally appeared on HuffPost.