People Are Spilling The Gory Details On Why They Cheated, And It's A Wild Ride

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“We met when I was in my mid-20s and he was in his early 30s. I said from the start, ‘I don’t want kids,’ and he agreed. Time went on, we moved in together and eventually got engaged. He started talking about kids, and I said I still didn’t want them. He had changed his mind and wanted kids with me. I reached out to both of our parents/siblings, our friends, and everyone for advice, but they all told me how great we were together and how we would make great parents. They all said I’d change my mind once I was pregnant or when I held ‘bub’ for the first time: ‘Push through, make it work; babies make a family.'”

“I saw a couple of therapists who wanted to deep dive into why I didn’t want kids. I just didn’t. I couldn’t explain why; it was just never on my radar. Everyone kept telling us how good we were with their kids…I needed an out, a solid reason to end things. So, I slept with a colleague, went home, and told my fiancé. He wanted to work things out, but a screaming match ensued, where I let it rip again, saying that I didn’t want kids. He kept saying I’d change my mind, and I unequivocally said I wouldn’t change it. I told him I couldn’t guarantee that I wouldn’t sleep around in the future, and we broke things off. The pain I caused him crushed me, but I couldn’t keep going in that relationship with that pressure to have kids. 15 years later, we sort of keep in touch — a call every year or so just to touch base — the care for each other is still there. I don’t have kids and don’t regret it. He has had a couple of long-term relationships. About a year ago, he called me, and I’ve never heard a man sound so broken. Turns out he is infertile. Too late to fix things now, but if we had known that and all the pressure was off, who knows what could have been.”

—u/ThePhoenixBird2022