Men then shared the things women said that completely took marriage off the table. Here’s what they had to say:
1.
“‘You know I won’t cheat on you, but if I wanted to, you’d never know.’ She was young and very hot. So I let it slip at first. But it always lingered in the back of my mind. I never really trusted her again.”
2.
“That she only dates ugly men because they are more appreciative of her attention.”
3.
“‘Let’s not go there. Someone may see us.’ I already felt I wasn’t gonna marry her, but that made it real.”
5.
“She was comparing the time and attention I gave her with the time I gave attention to my son.”
7.
“It was maybe the third or fourth date, and we were talking about career ambitions and future plans, and she very casually made it clear that despite having a degree and being an early career professional, she had no intention of working once she got married and expected her man to provide for her. I’m sure she found what she was looking for, she was very pretty, but that wasn’t what I wanted in a relationship.”
8.
“I asked her why she thought I was dating her. She instantly said, ‘Because you can’t get anyone else.’ I don’t know whether she was insulting me or herself, but that’s not something I’ll ever forget.”
10.
“Me, after six months of dating: ‘Hey, some friends of mine invited us over for dinner. Can we go? Want to meet them?’ Her: ‘What do I get out of it?'”
11.
“After one date, she said, ‘What would you do if the boys (her kids, not mine) and I came to live with you?’ It was over after that point.”
12.
“‘I don’t think you’re the one, but I mean, I don’t think anyone else I’m talking to is either.’ Oh. Oh, okay.”
13.
“She yelled at wait staff and resort staff about things they had no control over. If you can’t hold it together when your mashed potatoes are a little salty, your hotel A/C isn’t freezing cold, or an excursion leader won’t let you play your music, how the hell do you expect to raise children with good souls? Nightmare.”
14.
“We both work. She asked me to start giving her money monthly so she didn’t have to spend hers.”
15.
“‘We won’t be together if we won’t have kids.’ We both wanted kids, but if for some reason we couldn’t have kids, I needed to know we would cope with the problem together.”
16.
“‘If I had my own money, I’d just stay single and have fun with lots of guys.'”
18.
“During the initial getting to know you phase, her response to me asking her what her favorite book was: ‘I don’t read.’ Turns out she had zero intellectual curiosity about almost everything. No thanks.”
19.
“She did not want to go pick up her father from his job after he called asking her. It was very late and pouring rain. He gave her his car so she could go to university to study full-time while he paid for it all. I was there with her, and I knew she had time to go pick him up.”
20.
“That she was raised by nannies (because her mom and dad were both Wall Street bosses) and that she expected her kids would be raised the same way.”
21.
“‘Homeless people have made a choice. If they wanted to have a better life, they’d just work harder.'”
23.
“She said, ‘Maybe when you get an actual grown-up job like my sister’s husband has…’ Meanwhile, he made $20 an hour less than me, and his benefits sucked. Yeah, I’ll pass.”