Men Are Sharing How They “Accidentally” Found Out Their Wives Were Cheating, And Holy Moly

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“I had a sense something was going on between my wife and… her first cousin. Yep, her first cousin. We had visited him on our honeymoon, and the vibe seemed off even then. Over the next three years, it just didn’t feel right. I sat her down more than once to ask what was going on between her and her cousin. She looked me straight in the eyes and so convincingly said that I was pretty wild to think something was going on. But I sure felt something was off. And… She almost convinced me I was wrong.”

“One day, I was emptying the trash to find all our phone bills for a few months. We were very good at keeping records on lots of different bills. As I looked at the bills, I saw many phone calls at times when I was out of the house to his phone number. Very long calls, like one to two hours. I got angry and had to find out what was up. I dug through her file cabinet to find plenty of evidence that they were having an affair. Including an audio tape where she reveled in the idea of the two of them getting together and cheating on me and his wife. I listened to the entire tape. It sure was torturous. But then I had the proof, and I had no doubts. When she came back to the house, I simply held up the tape and asked, ‘What the f*ck is this?’ She got incredibly angry that I had snooped through her stuff. I was incredibly angry that she lied to me for years and gaslighted me. 

Our therapist later took my side and explained that when a person is being lied to and can’t stop thinking about it, they will typically search through personal things or follow up somehow to find the real truth. Then, she acted contrite and agreed to never contact him again. However, one more time, it just didn’t feel right. I am an engineer and a clever fellow. So, I broke the code on her voicemail to find several messages she had saved from him. Still talking about getting together. That was it for me. I had committed my life to her. I took that commitment seriously and found it difficult to give up. However, friends helped me see that she was a sick person and very devious, too. And she even got off on all that. We went through a long and ugly divorce. And as the saying goes, the best revenge is to move on and live a good life. I have had a great life with several respectful, healthy, loving partners since her. My advice is like what others have said – trust your gut. If you feel like you’re being lied to, it is very likely that you are. You deserve better.”

—Anonymous