“It Weeds Out Partners Who Are Insecure Or Sexually Selfish”: 17 Women Reveal Their Best NSFW Tips

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“You can say ‘no’ at any point during sex. You are not obligated to proceed with any part if you aren’t interested or invested.”

“When I was young, I remember feeling lackluster commitment because I wanted the experience rather than doing something because it was fun or arousing. There was a hint of, ‘Well, I already said yes, and I liked making out, so I might as well keep going.’ There were even times when I felt (without a threat of violence) that saying ‘no’ would result in rumors/gossip or potentially having my ‘no’ not be respected, so it was easier to just keep going than back out.

Once I grew in confidence, I was choosier, but I also always felt entitled and empowered to get up and ask someone to leave if I wasn’t enjoying myself or felt respected or listened to. I won’t waste my time if I could do it better myself.”

—u/tanjatriyfa