I’m Cancelling My Wedding Over A Comment From My Mother. Am I Wrong?

The original poster (OP) is in a long-distance relationship 

The post author explains that she lives in a different country from her fiancé (she’s in the US, he’s in the UK) and that they see each other for about six weeks at a time, three times a year. 

Ahead of one of those visits, her then-boyfriend asked her parents’ permission to propose.

“My parents had ‘assumed’ that I would know when he was proposing, and my dad had told me in a conversation that following week he was proposing in December 2024,” she says.

She was upset; her dad apologised, but her mother didn’t, calling her “dramatic”.

At the moment, her fiancé is in the US to visit her. The day she posted her issue, she says, her mother “randomly turns to me and goes, ‘Have you picked up your veil from the bridal store yet?’ right in front of him”.

This left the bride-to-be “frustrated,” as she says, “There are only two surprises in a wedding – the engagement and the dress. And both of them have been handled so carelessly.” 

After begging her parents not to spill any more beans about the dress, her mother gave what she called a “half-hearted” apology, to which OP replied “it’s fine. I’m used to it at this point.”

Her mum since “locked herself in a room” and isn’t talking to her. In an update to the original post, the author shared that she’s considering eloping instead of having her planned wedding at all.