“He Was Really Playing The Long Con”: Women Share Early Warning Signs They Wish They’d Recognized

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“He became wildly defensive during our first minor argument. He turned it around on me, and I ended up apologizing. It happened so fast, and I was so shocked and confused. I didn’t know what gaslighting was and had never experienced it before, so I let it go. It happened again not long after — and was way more extreme — when I told him my feelings were hurt by something he did. He absolutely lost it and started calling me names, told me I was being crazy, and that I had done way worse things to him but he didn’t say anything.”

“I sat there dumbfounded and shared our conversation with a close friend, who was also a therapist. She told me I was being gaslit. If someone can’t handle slight criticism, or refuses to apologize or take any accountability for how they made you feel (not to mention actually giving a shit about how you feel), RUN.”

—u/Heregoesnothin-