Ending A 25-Year Marriage End Over Cheating: Women Are Sharing Advice After Infidelity

“I went through this with a cheating wife, and we have six kids together. Everyone says they would walk away if it happened to them, but it is not that simple, especially if you have had a great relationship for a long time. You think it’s a phase that you both will be able to work through together. Here’s the sad truth on the other side of trying to work it out for nearly five years: Many things have broken to get there. First and most importantly, trust has been broken and repeatedly violated. Something in the cheater’s brain has gone haywire, and you think it can be retrieved and mended. Nope. Not quite the adage of once a cheater, always a cheater but close, and the truth is more corrosive and damaging…”

“…The faithful spouse may never fully trust the cheater again, and trust is one of the strongest binding agents in any relationship. Some say they have recovered and have never been stronger. I call bullcrap on that, and a simple scenario will bear this out. The cheater is out late and not answering the phone or texts. If the first thought is, ‘Are they at it again?‘ cut your losses, abbreviate your pain and grief, chalk it up to the most brutal life lesson, and recapture your life and future. Good luck. 😊❤️”

—Kurt Green, Quora user