Divorced People Who Caught Their Spouses Cheating Are Exposing How They Found Out, And OMG

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“We moved to Texas at the beginning of summer, and immediately enrolled our kids into Taekwondo for fitness and friends. I thought the instructor was sus when I found out he was married to the mother of two students (who was married when they started attending). It didn’t help when he later openly dated a couple of mothers while he was still married to the woman whose marriage he had broken up. My wife of over 20 years told me he was sensitive, and his wife didn’t understand him. I knew what was coming and soon found the text exchanges confirming he was now flirting with her.”

“We have three kids, so I fought for my marriage for eight years. She is the 10th mother of a student to sleep with him (in 11 years). She tried to deny the affair, maintaining that they were just good friends, and I was delusional. I told her they would be dating within a year of our divorce; one week after the one-year anniversary, they announced they were dating and married within the year.

People who knew him his whole life reached out to me after they found out and apologized for not warning me. They’ve been married for almost three years now. He’s begun traveling more for work, and he recently had to give up his position in TKD leadership because he expects to ‘spend more time on the road.’ She doesn’t see anything wrong with that…

I raised the last of our three kids myself, and he is as good as they come. Me? I’m still figuring out how to forgive myself for putting so much time, effort, and money into a dying relationship. If you’ve read this long, my message to you is to believe what you see the first time and be willing to walk away first; anything else is extremely costly in many ways.”

—Anonymous, 55, Texas