Divorced People Are Sharing Huge “Red Flags” They Ignored Before Getting Married, And It’s Eye-Opening

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“I literally didn’t see the ‘red flags’ because the opportunity wasn’t there. I never saw him live alone. He spent most of our late teens and early 20s living with my twin brother and roommates, and I moved in after that. The house (and his apartment with my brother before that) was always clean enough. Every once in a while, I’d see him doing dishes or cleaning up. Once we got married, I realized that he did nothing. He did no housework. My brother told me to tell him what to do. I did, and he’d occasionally do it, but I couldn’t follow him around and make sure he always picked up after himself! So, especially as roommates started moving out, the house became a mess.”

“Then, the baby was born, and again, he was very little help. He would play with the kid and occasionally change diapers, but all the extra dishes, laundry, shopping (with the baby in tow, of course), and cleaning were my responsibility, along with all the feedings. Soon, to his detriment, I realized, ‘I could do this on my own, and it would actually be less work.’ That wasn’t the only problem in our marriage, but it was the big one.”

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