Divorced People Are Revealing The Moment They Knew Their Marriage Was Doomed, And Wow

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“He has a mental health issue that he failed to tell me about before we got married. The kind that requires medications, and he chose to go off of them around the time we got married. The kind that’s genetic. I never noticed anything because everything during our dating was good. Neither my family nor I noticed any red flags. Less than a month after we got married, it was like a switch flipped.”

“He became verbally abusive. He would call me a bitch, the c-word, and threaten divorce. I had no family in the area, having moved across the country to be with him. My mother-in-law witnessed his behavior and had me stay with her for a couple of weeks. She’s the one who finally told me about his mental health struggles. The reason he didn’t tell me about his mental health was that ‘It wasn’t any of my business.’

Things escalated further over time, and my dad flew out to bring me home. I was served the paperwork three months after we married. I’m sad that I didn’t really get a chance to be a wife. And it took a lot of healing and reflection to realize that his mental health didn’t make him a bad person. Mental health doesn’t define a person. The truth is, he was never a good person to begin with.”

—Anonymous, 31, female, Arizona