Divorced Men Revealed “Dark Secrets” From Their Previous Marriage That Other Men Should Know

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“We grew apart. Married for 12 years, and while there were some great times, there were lots of lows over the last four or five years. As we grew apart, we stopped looking after each other, stopped being intimate, and lost trust and faith in our relationship. No ‘one big thing’ happened. It was lots of little things over 10 years. We stopped talking and paid more attention to electronics than ourselves or each other. Stopped snuggling on the couch. Stopped holding hands while walking in public. Started watching movies at the cinema alone. Started going out with friends, but not together.”

“In the end, we were basically housemates, so we called time. On reflection, either one of us could have stopped the drift, but neither one of us wanted to. It should have ended years earlier. There would be less wasted time, and that’s my biggest regret — that I wasted her and my time by not calling it earlier. We are much better off without the other dragging us down. Thankfully, we don’t have kids, so that made it easier, sort of. She’s gone on to bigger and better things, as have I. I’ve even found love again, and it’s highly possible I’ll marry again (maybe, hopefully, the woman I’m dating now, she’s, well, she’s everything I’ve ever wanted, but it’s too soon). Just know that divorce might end one thing, one chapter of your life, but it’s not the end of you; the book isn’t closed. It’s not even finished being written.”

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