Childfree Women Are Sharing How Their Relationships Changed After Their Friends Had Kids,

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“I truly enjoy kids, but most of my friends with children have drifted out of my life. I’m in my early 40s. I wanted to be the fun auntie (tee ball games are hilariously entertaining), but it hasn’t quite worked out that way.”

“Some completely lost their own identity. The ‘mom’ hat went on, and that was all they were. While I absolutely understand (and agree) that your kids should be your priority. A lot of these women now have older teens/young adults and are completely lost and angry in their relationship with themselves, their spouses, and others.

Some only wanted a babysitter, and that was literally the only time I could get a text back.

Some just felt I couldn’t relate to them anymore and focused more on their mom friend groups.

Two were straight-up judgmental about my own childfree life and the things I prioritized. They took me doing something like taking a solo vacation, joining a book club, getting a new hobby, or having time/money for a spa day as an attack.

Most were a combination of these.

I’ve tried to maintain some of these relationships, but after being on the fringe of someone’s life for 15 to 20 years, the constant cancelling of plans, constant one sided conversations, complete lack of availability (even for a text), the obvious lack of interest about anything going on in my life, the constant assumptions that I have all the time in the world, just the complete one-sided lack of effort in general — sadly, I’m not sure I’ll be close with them ever again.”

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