Bisexual People Are Sharing The “Little Differences” Between Dating Men And Women That They Didn't Expect

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“I’ve found that, sexually, men seem to have more of a routine than women do. Like, men approach sex with an itinerary in mind. There’s very little variation here, and once one activity has started, the idea of backtracking seems to not occur to them. It’s like you can only go forward on a set route. Women tend to vary it more and are less likely to come at sex with a set routine in mind. There’s also no set end point the way there is with men.”

“There are pros and cons to both of these approaches. With men, it can get kind of boring, and it often feels like it’s all on me to shake us out of the itinerary. And with women, the fact there’s no clear direction each time and no obvious place to stop can become frustrating if you don’t feel like doing the, ‘OK, can we leave it there? I wanna go to sleep,’ interruption.

Obviously, these are generalizations and don’t apply to every single individual man or woman.”

—changhyun

“I’m a woman and have been with both men and women, with a strong preference for men. I have found women to be much more communicative and eager to please. More sensual. Often times when men go down on me, for example, I get the sense that it’s performative or more for them, but they aren’t really tuned in to my body or my reactions.”

—ifthisisntnice00