40-Something Singles Are Sharing Their Experiences In The Dating Scene, And It *Might* Be Bleak

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“Maybe I’m an exception, but dating has only gotten better as I’ve gotten older. There’s just so much less bullshit. People are generally more honest with themselves and in turn more honest with each other. It’s a lot easier to get to the end of the date and say, “This wasn’t really a fit was it?” “No, I don’t think so.” “Good luck on your next date, though!” “You too! Get home safe!” and no one gets their feelings hurt. No one is trying to fit a square peg in a round hole (and I don’t mean that in a sexual way, do what makes you feel good) just because they feel like the NEED to be in a relationship.”

“That said, to the men out there, I’m BEGGING you to just be normal. The bar is so, so low. The standard is just “Don’t be an asshole.” That’s it. That’s all you have to do. I’m not saying every date will be a booming success (see the previous paragraph), but you will have a FAR better chance of finding out if you’re actually a good fit if you can just not be an asshole.” – sloowhand