38 Bridesmaids Who Purposefully, Pettily Ruined Someone Else’s Wedding

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And finally, “I got engaged to my fiancé in December 2019, around the same time as my BFF Chelsea. We decided that we’d be each other’s MOHs. Chelsea and her ex split up shortly after the engagement because he cheated. Meanwhile, my fiancé and I started planning a laid-back fall wedding. I asked Chelsea if she was still up to being MOH and she excitedly said yes.”

“A few days later, she sent me a list of dates for a wedding shower at the place where hers was originally scheduled. I told her we weren’t planning on a shower because a lot of our friends/family were hit hard by the pandemic. She was upset but let it go. Something similar happened with the dress shopping. She had a list of places ready to go. I told her I wanted my friend (who’s a seamstress) to make the dress. She convinced me to go shopping anyway, then ended up trying a lot of the dresses herself.

I was wary when she mentioned a bachelorette party, but she presented plans that seemed perfect: a hike, a nice dinner, then a drive-in movie with my dog. I agreed. She picked me up that Saturday, but instead of driving to the park we were supposed to hike in, she took me to a lake house. My heart dropped because I knew she’d planned a house party. Lo and behold, I walked in and my bridesmaids were there, as well as the women whom I suspect Chelsea would’ve picked as bridesmaids. There was also a lot of liquor.

I don’t drink. My mother is an alcoholic, and I want to avoid the same fate. While I don’t mind being around people who are drinking, it’s uncomfortable and — depending on the situation — triggering. When I walked in, half the people there were already drunk. To make matters worse, Chelsea neglected to tell me until 9 p.m. that she planned to stay the night. My fiancé was out of town, and I had no one to watch my dog. Chelsea said, ‘He’ll probably be okay, it’s only one night!’

Long story short, my future BIL came and picked me up and took me home. I didn’t tell Chelsea myself (she was trashed at that point) and asked one of my bridesmaids to. The next day, I woke up with 20+ texts and calls from Chelsea and a few others asking where I was and if I was OK. I texted Chelsea back, who told me she was headed to my place to talk. 

As soon as she walked through the door, she started berating me, telling me she put so much effort into that party, and I was so ungrateful. She told me that she wished I were a ‘normal bride.’ Admittedly, I thought she was coming to apologize, so I lost my shit. I told her I’d been walking on eggshells and compromising so I didn’t hurt her feelings, but I wouldn’t anymore, and that she needed to stop living vicariously through me and planning what she’d want for her own wedding. She called me a bitch and a bad friend and left. We haven’t spoken since.”

—u/BrilliantDeer259