23 Brides Shared Why They Called Off Their Weddings And Never Looked Back

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“I was in a relationship with a long-time BF (7 years) when we got engaged. I just finished school, and we had been together for so long, so it was the next step. I was really young when I met him so that gave him time to mold me to his preference. I often had to ‘dumb’ myself because he said I often offended him with my comments. And I did all that. I did not only because I viewed it as normal but also because I honestly and truly believed that this was IT, that I should take it because this was my only shot at being loved.”

“We got engaged and decided we were gonna get married in a year. A couple of months later, I found out he was cheating on me. We fight, he apologizes, I forgive him. He then proceeded to be a total shit for the next months, increasingly controlling and just being downright mean, and I took all this. I remember that I was out with him and some friends one night and he was particularly mean to me that day; we left and got on the car and I just started sobbing, and he apologized and I told him: ‘I always thought that when I got married I would be in love.’ And it was true, I did not love him anymore; I had fell out of love with him, slowly. And those words at that moment became the first step on the ladder to leave him.

I started feeling that there was life without him and then I found out that he had some loans he hadn’t told me about. And that was it. That was the last straw. Something I can’t explain came over me. I suddenly had the courage to leave him. I made up my mind. There was no more forgiving. I called it off. We broke up. This was the hardest thing I had to do in my life. This was me standing up for myself; this was me going against everyone in my life. Invites were sent, and places were booked. I DIDN’T GIVE A FUCK. My family was devastated, but I was happy. Oh, I was SO happy. And everyone was so mad at me because I was happy. But they didn’t know, they had no idea what I had been going through for the last few years, so they thought it was inappropriate for me to be so happy.”

—u/gallagirl