19 Times People Realized They Got A “Shut Up” Ring And Their Partner Didn’t Actually Want To Get Married

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“I had been dating my boyfriend at the time for two years. He kept talking to me about marriage and family and how ‘when we get married’ — you know, this and that. It was my 21st birthday, and he told me he was going to get me something. We had been looking for apartments to rent to move in together. He tells me to go get his coat out of his car. When I get back, I hand him the coat. He threw it back at me and said, ‘I think there is something in the pocket?’ He then told me to pull it out. It was a tiny box, I opened it, and it was a cute promise ring. I got excited and said, ‘What does this mean?’ He said, ‘You know what that means.’ I was so excited that I didn’t realize I was never asked. He just assumed because it was a ring that he didn’t have to ask me.”

“It was later that I found out his controlling parents said they would disown him if we moved out and had a place together before we got married. I was so stupid, young, and ignorant. I would never wish I hadn’t married him, but only because I wouldn’t have my two beautiful daughters if it wasn’t for him. We ended up eloping because we were moving into that apartment soon. I just wish sometimes I would have run instead of wasting 10 years of my life on someone who wanted me to be his wife, mother of his children, maid, chef, secretary, and servant — all because he had no backbone and allowed us to be bullied into marriage before we lived together. It could’ve saved me thousands on the divorce that was a nightmare, the trauma my girls and I dealt with after I left him, and the abuse I suffered at the hands of his ‘perfect’ parents. Barf!”

—bethannjauron1