18 Devastating “Truth Bombs” That Completely Destroyed Relationships Forever

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“My ex lied about everything. He invented an entire false backstory of hardship and tragedy, like almost making the NHL before a knee injury ruined his dreams, rehabbing that injury enough to sign a contract as a professional mountain bike racer, and then in the very next race, crashing and shattering a vertebrae and ruining his ability to play any sports again. He has stories about traveling around South America and being arrested and extorted by police, about a job he worked on production for a Spice Girls tour in Europe, and where Geri Halliwell kissed him at the tour wrap-up party, about his time in the Coast Guard, and various heroic rescues he had pulled off. The most egregious lie was that he had survived bowel cancer. I’m a nurse, and everything he told me about his recovery, treatments, and medications was exact. He had literally studied cancer treatments and memorized the names of chemo meds.”

“We had a baby together, and he was horrible to me in my pregnancy and postpartum. He body-shamed me, degraded and humiliated me in front of strangers under the guise of ‘joking,’ and even poured out my pumped breast milk and screamed at me when I would breastfeed so that my son had to be formula fed. He was away at sea in the Coast Guard when our child was 4 months old. He had borrowed my laptop to work on a course and left it signed in and synced with his phone. I could see in real-time as he and a woman exchanged nudes. I found out he had cheated on me during my pregnancy with 10-15 women. I had suspected it because he was averse to any intimacy at all during my entire pregnancy, but there was now plenty of evidence. 

I called his sister and started telling her about things, and she confirmed that his backstory was lies he’d told many people, and they had a very privileged childhood. He had constantly been on social media talking to other women, but he would say that it was a friend’s girlfriend, cousin, or coworker. But it turned out that they were all women he had slept with or was cheating on me with. He was telling these women all sorts of lies about me to make me seem like a monster, but they all knew about me, the pregnancy, and the baby. That one really hurt. 

When I contacted the women, they seemed mostly mad about the *other* women he was involved with. They all thought they were something special to him. He came home from the sea, and for two weeks, I tried to figure out how to move forward. He ended up sexually assaulting me (it took me a long time to figure it out because I had wanted intimacy from him for my whole pregnancy, and now that I didn’t want it, he forced it, and tried to convince me that I actually wanted it, and I was in the depths of postpartum depression hell). He finally told me he would not stop having other women in his life. I kicked him out, and he called child services and made up a bunch of lies about me, spread rumors about me around my workplace to try to ruin my career, and canceled about 50% of his parenting time to go get drunk and sleep with strangers during the pandemic.

I’ve spent about $70k on legal bills and following court orders to try and get some semblance of peace in my life. He is now married to one of the women he cheated on me with, and the week before they announced their engagement, he came to me and said he just wanted to be a family again and asked me to give him a chance, so I doubt she’s being treated any better than I was. I now have to try to co-parent with them, and I have a diagnosis of PTSD from the sexual assault and everything he did to us. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. I try to put it all aside for my son’s sake, but I also want to protect him from how my ex will eventually use, abuse, and discard him, just like he’s done with everyone in his life. They didn’t even invite him to their wedding, and it seems they basically trot my son out for photo opportunities or to try and hurt me.”

—Anonymous